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Everyone Deserves to be Happy: Why I Created Intentonomics®

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Let me start with something I believe deeply: Everyone deserves to be happy.

Not just content; Not just getting by; Actually, genuinely happy in their work, in their relationships, in the quiet moments when they’re alone with their thoughts. Happy in a way that feels authentic, sustainable, and aligned with who they really are.

This belief isn’t just philosophical for me. It’s personal. And it’s the driving force behind why I developed Intentonomics®.

The Pattern I Couldn’t Ignore

Over years of studying human behavior and observing patterns in how people approach change, I kept seeing the same heartbreaking pattern. People would know exactly what they needed to be happier:

  • The executive who knew she needed to stop working 80-hour weeks to save her marriage
  • The middle manager who understood that speaking up in meetings would advance his career
  • The parent who recognized that being present with their children mattered more than scrolling through emails
  • The friend who knew that having difficult conversations would deepen relationships
  • The entrepreneur who understood that delegating would reduce stress and grow the business

They knew. They all knew.

But knowing and doing lived in completely different worlds.

I watched brilliant, capable, well-intentioned people repeatedly choose paths that led away from their own happiness. Not because they were self-destructive or lacking willpower, but because something fundamental was missing in how we think about human choice and change.

That’s when I realized: We’ve been solving the wrong problem.

The Real Problem: The Choice Gap

Most approaches to happiness, whether in self-help books, organizational development programs, or therapy sessions, focus on what people should do differently. Better habits, clearer goals, improved systems, enhanced skills.

But I discovered that happiness doesn’t fail because people don’t know what to do. It fails because people haven’t truly decided to do it.

There’s an invisible barrier between knowing and choosing, between understanding and committing, between seeing the path and actually walking it. This barrier isn’t about information or capability. It’s about the quality and strength of our intent.

This realization became the foundation of Intentonomics®: the behavioral science of strengthening choices to enable action.

The science part matters because I’ve seen too many people beat themselves up for “lacking willpower” when the real issue is that their choices lack the psychological and environmental conditions needed for sustainable action. When we understand what actually activates human intent, we can design both personal and professional transformations that stick.

Why Intent Is Everything

Think about the last time you made a choice that genuinely moved you toward happiness. I mean really moved you, not just a temporary pleasure or quick fix, but something that created lasting positive change in your life.

What was different about that choice compared to all the times you knew what would make you happy but didn’t pursue it?

If you’re like most people, you’ll recognize that the successful choice had a different quality to it. It felt solid, clear, aligned. You weren’t just considering it; you had decided. The intent was strong, and action followed naturally.

Now think about an area where you’re stuck. Maybe it’s setting boundaries with work demands to protect family time. Or having honest conversations with your partner about what you need. Perhaps it’s pursuing a creative project that brings you joy, or investing in friendships that energize rather than drain you.

You probably know what you should do. The question is: have you truly decided to do it?

This is where Intentonomics® becomes transformational for both your personal life and your professional impact. When you strengthen your own choices, you don’t just change your circumstances. You become someone who models possibility for others. Your team notices. Your family notices. Your friends notice.

And here’s what’s fascinating from a business perspective: the same choice-strengthening principles that create personal happiness are exactly what drive successful organizational change. Every failed training program, every stalled digital transformation, every leadership initiative that fizzled out can trace back to the same issue: people knew what to do but hadn’t truly decided to do it.

The ORBIT™ of Happiness Across All Life Roles

I developed the ORBIT Principle™ as an engine of Intentonomics® to map the specific conditions that transform weak intentions into strong choices. Let me walk you through how this applies to happiness across every role you play in life:

 

Opportunity: Is There a Meaningful Reason to Act Now?

For happiness to become real, you need genuine opportunity. I use what I call the P.U.R.E. method to validate this:

In Your Career: What problems are you tolerating that drain your energy? Perhaps you’re saying yes to every project request, even ones that bore you, because you fear losing the chance to be noticed. Once you identify the real problem (boundary setting, not workload), you can see the opportunity: more selective work choices could increase both your income and your satisfaction.

This same principle applies to organizational change. Companies often launch new systems or processes without validating whether there’s genuine opportunity for improvement. They assume the problem is obvious, but teams might see it differently. When a sales team resists adopting a new CRM system, the real opportunity might not be better data management, but addressing the underlying frustration with administrative burden. When you identify the true problem from the users’ perspective, you can design change that people actually want to embrace.

In Your Relationships: What unmet needs exist in your closest connections? Maybe you know your marriage is struggling but keep saying you’ll “work on it later.” When you recognize that your relationship feels more like roommates than partners, the opportunity becomes clear: invest in connection now, or risk losing what matters most.

In Your Personal Life: What aspects of your health, creativity, or growth have you been neglecting? You might keep saying you miss painting but have no time. The real opportunity isn’t finding more hours. It’s questioning why you’ve convinced yourself that joy is a luxury you can’t afford.

The opportunity for happiness exists when you can clearly see both what’s not working and what’s possible, with a realistic path forward.

Relevance: Does This Align With Who You Really Are?

Sustainable happiness must connect to your deeper values. This is where many corporate wellness programs fall flat. They offer generic solutions instead of helping people connect change to their authentic selves.

Personal Values: When you examine what you truly believe matters, the answers reveal why some happiness pursuits stick and others don’t. If family connection is a core value, working toward better relationships becomes deeply relevant. If creativity feeds your soul, making time for artistic expression isn’t selfish. It’s essential.

The same relevance principle explains why some corporate training programs create lasting change while others are forgotten within weeks. Generic leadership development often fails because it doesn’t connect to what individual participants actually value. But when learning experiences help people see how new skills serve their personal career aspirations, strengthen their ability to support their teams, or align with their deeper sense of purpose, engagement skyrockets. People don’t resist change that feels personally meaningful.

Life Stage Alignment: What you need for happiness shifts as you grow. Twenty-five-year-olds focused on building careers might sacrifice relationships that would anchor them. Forty-five-year-olds questioning their legacy often need to shift from climbing ladders to building meaning. Those thinking about retirement usually need to redefine contribution rather than achievement.

Identity Integration: The most powerful happiness choices feel like coming home to yourself. When choices align with who you’re becoming rather than just solving who you’ve been, they create energy instead of draining it.

Belief: Do You Really Think You Can Create this Change?

This is often where people get stuck, and it’s where the science of Intentonomics® becomes crucial for transformation. Belief isn’t just positive thinking. It’s grounded confidence based on evidence and capability.

Self-Efficacy: Look at your history. When have you successfully created positive change before? What capabilities do you have that you’re not acknowledging? You might think you can’t influence your company’s toxic culture, but then remember how you’ve successfully mediated conflicts between colleagues, advocated for flexible arrangements, and mentored others. The evidence of your capability is already there.

Outcome Belief: Do you truly believe that investing in your happiness will yield meaningful returns? Or are you secretly convinced that you don’t deserve it, that it’s selfish, or that it won’t last? This is where professional and personal transformation intersect. When you believe your wellbeing contributes to better performance, relationships, and leadership, pursuing happiness becomes strategic rather than indulgent.

In organizational contexts, belief challenges show up everywhere. Teams might resist new collaborative tools not because they don’t understand the features, but because they don’t believe the investment in learning will actually improve their work experience. They’ve seen too many “transformational” initiatives that promised big changes but delivered minimal impact. Building belief requires showing clear connections between effort and meaningful outcomes, often through small wins that demonstrate real value before asking for larger commitments.

Environmental Trust: Sometimes we need to start with small experiments to build belief that our circumstances can support change. You might believe your industry is too demanding for work-life balance. Starting with protecting one evening per week for family dinner could lead to broader conversations about sustainable performance across your entire organization.

Integrity of Thought: What’s Your Energetic State?

Your consciousness level directly impacts your ability to create happiness. I’ve observed this pattern thousands of times, and it explains why some people can transform quickly while others struggle for years with the same insights.

Low-Energy States that weaken your intent to pursue happiness:

  • Shame: “I don’t deserve this or to be happy”
  • Guilt: “What we are doing is not correct or It’s selfish to prioritize my own fulfillment”
  • Fear: “What if I pursue this objective or happiness and fail?”
  • Apathy: “Nothing will really change anyway”

High-Energy States that strengthen your intent:

  • Courage: “I’m willing to take risks for what matters to me”
  • Reason: “I can think clearly about what serves this objective and my wellbeing”
  • Love: “I care enough about myself and others to pursue this”
  • Joy: “I’m energized by the possibility of greater achievement and happiness”

The higher your consciousness level, the stronger your choices become. This isn’t mystical. It’s practical psychology. When you operate from courage rather than fear, from love rather than shame, your brain literally processes information differently. You see opportunities instead of obstacles. You take action instead of avoiding risk.

This consciousness principle is crucial for implementing organizational change. Teams operating from fear (“What if this new process makes us look incompetent?”) or apathy (“Here we go again with another change initiative”) will struggle to engage authentically with learning and transformation. But when you can elevate the collective consciousness to curiosity (“What might this enable us to accomplish?”) or courage (“We’re capable of mastering this challenge”), the same training content becomes exponentially more effective. It’s not about the information you share, it’s about the energetic state people bring to receiving it.

Trust: Do You Trust the People, Process, and Path?

Happiness requires trust across multiple dimensions, and this is where personal transformation enables professional leadership. When you learn to trust yourself with your own wellbeing, you become someone others trust with theirs.

People Trust: Do you trust yourself to make good choices about your own wellbeing? Do you trust the important people in your life to support your growth? You might be hiding career ambitions from your partner because you don’t trust they’ll support your pursuit of a promotion that might require travel. The conversation you’ve been avoiding might actually deepen your partnership.

Process Trust: Do you believe in the methods you’re using to create change? Are you confident in your ability to learn and adapt as you go? This is why I developed ORBIT™ as a diagnostic tool. Instead of guessing why change isn’t happening, you can systematically examine what’s missing.

Trust becomes especially critical in business transformation because organizational change affects multiple people with different perspectives and concerns. When implementing new technologies, processes, or ways of working, trust must be earned at every level. People need to trust that leadership genuinely believes in the change, that the implementation process will be fair and transparent, and that support will be available when challenges arise. Without this foundation of trust, even the most well-designed training programs encounter resistance that has nothing to do with content quality.

Path Trust: Can you see a clear enough roadmap forward, even if you don’t know every step? The most successful transformations start with people who can trust the direction without needing to control every detail.

When All Five Roles Align

Here’s what I’ve discovered: when you apply Intentonomics® to strengthen your choices around happiness, something remarkable happens. The different roles in your life start to reinforce rather than compete with each other.

The executive who finally sets boundaries becomes more effective at work and more present at home. The parent who pursues their creative passion models authenticity for their children while finding energy that makes them better at parenting. The friend who learns to have honest conversations deepens their connections while building skills that serve them everywhere.

Happiness isn’t compartmentalized. When you strengthen your intent to pursue fulfillment in one area, it ripples through everything.

This pattern plays out in organizations too. When leaders model the courage to pursue authentic fulfillment, it gives their teams permission to do the same. Employee engagement rises not because of new policies but because of new possibilities people see in their leaders’ examples.

The business implications are profound. Organizations that apply Intentonomics® to their learning and change initiatives see dramatically different outcomes. Instead of rolling out training that people attend but don’t apply, they create experiences that strengthen intent first, then build capability. Instead of implementing changes that people comply with but don’t embrace, they design transformations that people choose to champion.

Consider how this works in practice: a company wants to improve customer service scores. Traditional approaches focus on teaching new techniques or implementing new systems. But Intentonomics® would first examine whether teams have genuine opportunity to serve customers better (maybe current processes create barriers), whether improved service aligns with what employees value (recognition, pride in work, career growth), whether they believe their efforts will make a difference, what energetic state they bring to customer interactions, and whether they trust leadership’s commitment to supporting excellent service.

When all five ORBIT™ components align, the same customer service training that might have generated modest results becomes transformational because people aren’t just learning new skills, they’re choosing to embody a new way of working.

My Personal Why

I want to be honest with you about why this matters so much to me. I’ve seen too many good people resign themselves to less than they deserve. I’ve watched brilliant minds convince themselves that happiness is selfish, unrealistic, or somehow not for them.

But I’ve also seen what happens when people apply the principles of Intentonomics® to their own lives. When they move from weak intentions to strong choices. When they stop waiting for permission and start designing their own fulfillment.

The transformation isn’t just personal. It’s generational. Happy people raise happier children. Fulfilled professionals create better workplaces. Authentic friends inspire deeper connections. People who choose their own happiness give others permission to do the same.

This is why I created Intentonomics®. Because everyone deserves to be happy, and everyone has the power to strengthen the choices that create that happiness.

Your Happiness, Your Choice

So let me ask you directly: What would change in your life if you truly decided, with clear, strong intent, to pursue your own happiness?

Not someday. Not when conditions are perfect. Not when you have more time, money, or energy.

What if you decided now?

Take a moment to examine your current situation through the ORBIT™ lens:

  • Opportunity: Where do you see the clearest potential for greater happiness?
  • Relevance: What matters most deeply to who you’re becoming?
  • Belief: What evidence do you have that you can create positive change?
  • Integrity: What’s your current energetic state around pursuing fulfillment?
  • Trust: Who and what do you trust to support this journey?

Your answers will reveal exactly where to begin.

The beauty of Intentonomics® is that it works at any scale. You can apply it to a conversation you need to have this week, a career transition you’re considering, or a life pattern you want to shift. The framework adapts because it’s based on how human choice actually works rather than how we think it should work.

From a business perspective, this scalability means you can use ORBIT™ to diagnose why a small team isn’t adopting a new process, why a department-wide training program isn’t creating behaviour change, or why an enterprise-wide transformation is losing momentum. The same principles that help individuals strengthen their choices around personal happiness also help organizations strengthen collective choices around professional growth and change.

This is why I believe Intentonomics® represents a fundamental shift in how we approach organizational development. Instead of assuming that people will change when they understand what to do, we start by ensuring they truly decide to do it. We design learning experiences that don’t just transfer knowledge but strengthen intent. We create change processes that don’t just communicate new directions but build the psychological and environmental conditions that make new directions feel inevitable.

Everyone deserves to be happy; including you. Especially you.

Now let’s make it happen.

Ankur Shiv Bhandari (ASB)

7 Reasons Why Trying to Change too much is Wasteful: Trust Your Gut and Stay True to Yourself

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In a world that constantly demands change and adaptation, it’s easy to feel pressured to mold ourselves to fit every new situation, trend, or expectation. From the workplace to social circles, the urge to adapt can often seem overwhelming. However, there’s a compelling argument for why it’s wasteful to constantly try to adapt: instead, we should follow our gut instincts and refine our appearances to the environment without changing who we are at the core. Here’s why staying true to yourself is not only more fulfilling but also more effective in the long run.

1. Authenticity is Powerful

When you stay true to who you are, you project authenticity. People are drawn to those who are genuine because it fosters trust and builds stronger relationships. Authenticity allows for deeper connections and more meaningful interactions, both personally and professionally. When you try to adapt too much, you risk losing the essence of who you are, making it harder for others to connect with you on a real level.

2. Adaptation Can Lead to Identity Loss

Constantly adapting to fit new situations can dilute your sense of self. When you bend too much to the expectations of others, you may lose sight of your own values, desires, and goals. Over time, this can lead to a crisis of identity where you no longer recognize who you are or what you stand for. Staying true to yourself ensures that you maintain a strong, clear sense of identity.

3. Following Your Gut is Often More Reliable

Our gut feelings are often a reflection of our true selves and our accumulated life experiences. Intuition can be a powerful guide, often leading us in the right direction more reliably than trying to overthink or over-adapt to every new situation. When you trust your instincts, you make decisions that align more closely with your true self, leading to greater satisfaction and success.

4. Refinement Over Reinvention

Instead of reinventing yourself to fit every new situation, consider refining how you present yourself. Refinement is about enhancing what’s already there—polishing your strengths and managing your weaknesses—without fundamentally changing who you are. This approach allows you to stay authentic while still being flexible and responsive to your environment.

5. The Inefficiency of Constant Change

Adapting requires a significant investment of time and energy. Constantly changing yourself to fit new molds is not only exhausting but also inefficient. This energy could be better spent on pursuing your passions, developing your skills, and deepening your existing relationships. By focusing on refining your appearance and approach rather than your core identity, you can conserve your energy for what truly matters.

6. Confidence and Self-Worth

Confidence comes from knowing and accepting who you are. When you constantly try to adapt to others’ expectations, you may undermine your self-worth, leading to self-doubt and insecurity. Embracing your true self fosters self-confidence, which is attractive and empowering. When you believe in yourself, others are more likely to believe in you too.

7. Long-Term Happiness

Happiness is closely tied to authenticity and self-acceptance. When you live in alignment with your true self, you are more likely to experience genuine happiness and contentment. The stress of constantly trying to adapt can lead to dissatisfaction and burnout. Instead, focus on refining how you express yourself within your environment, allowing your true personality to shine through.

Conclusion

In a society that often values conformity and constant change, it’s essential to remember the power of staying true to yourself. While adaptation has its place, it’s wasteful to constantly reshape yourself to meet external expectations. Trust your gut instincts and focus on refining your appearance to fit the environment without compromising your core identity. By doing so, you’ll foster deeper connections, maintain a strong sense of self, and ultimately lead a more fulfilling and authentic life.

-Ankur Shiv Bhandari ( ASB)

“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…Unless you fail to make the turn.” – Helen Keller

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“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…Unless you fail to make the turn.”- Helen Keller

This post is dedicated to all who might be looking at new options either because of recent job cuts or otherwise. There might be a few doubts creeping in, or you might be receiving undesired statements from the world. Nothing and no one can decide what your future looks like except YOU!

I came across a LinkedIn post from an individual some time ago where he listed down an array of demotivators thrown at him when he was trying to start a new life in a new Country, such as “You will not find a job in your field”, “You will not be able to have a senior position if you want to settle here”,” You will need to adjust your expectations downwards” etc. etc. He then proceeded to proudly share that “He was glad he only listened to himself” as he was now on the Board of Directors of a reputable organisation within that year.

I assume most of us have encountered such situations in our personal & professional lives where we are faced with similar statements/doubts expressed on capabilities. There can be one of three outcomes in such a situation:

1) Get demotivated/stop attempting

2) Not affected/carry on as planned

3) Challenge becomes a huge motivation/multiplies the effort.

In my personal experience, these have actually proved to be significant motivators to try to accomplish what has been stated as “can’t be done”. Granted that subject to the limits of science and the supernatural not everything will be possible but I hope you get my gist :-).

It was the year 1993; I had just given my year ten exams (sort of equivalent to GCSEs) and had about four months of holidays coming up. Although it has been quite common for 14+-year-olds to take up jobs in Europe, the Americas etc., in the Northern Indian town of Faridabad where I grew up, it was almost unheard of (the landscape has changed a bit over the last decade or so but still not common) due to multiple factors such as too young, family reputation, limited belief in capability etc.

However, in very simple terms, in my heart, I wanted to learn the value of money and expressed a desire to my family that I wanted to work. You guessed the response right…” You can’t do it”. So the third outcome, as above, “ Challenge becomes a huge motivation”, kicked in, and I tried to find a way. As luck would have it, I learned about a boy known to my family who had started going to Delhi as he had taken up a job there. I spoke to him and was told that he works for a toy company. Somehow convinced my father to accompany this boy called Happy for one day and see if it was something decent to be involved in.

As agreed with Happy, I reached his home the next day at 7:30 AM to go to Delhi with him. Not sure why, but surprise, surprise, he had left without me. Now definitely couldn’t just go back home and miss this golden chance, and in those days, there were no cell phones, so I couldn’t contact Happy either. I remembered Happy had told me that the company he works for is based in Delhi’s “East of Kailash “area and had shared the company name. Armed with these two pieces of information, without ever having travelled alone to Delhi and that too on Public transport, I headed for the old Faridabad train station(Google hadn’t graced our lives yet:-)). At the station enquired about the train stop I should get off at in Delhi to reach East of Kailash and learned about Okhla, my destination station for the day. Once I reached East of Kailash ( it was not a couple of blocks, more like a small town), I started enquiring about this Toy company, and after about an hour, luck smiled, and a phone shop( called STD/ISD booths in India) which this toy company used to route their long distance calls gave me their address.

Late morning, I arrived at A3-East of Kailash, which was originally a house but now had offices in the basement & ground floor and someone’s residence on the upper floors. The toy company’s office was in the basement. When I entered the office, my friend Happy was there and was suitably surprised. Anyway, I spoke to the boss and found out that this particular office employed people for door-to-door selling of their Soft toys and board games. They said they would give me a trial for a week, and I jumped on the chance.

So that day in April 1993, armed with around 20kgs of toys and games on my shoulder, with a desire to learn and motivated further by “You can’t do it”, at the grand age of 15, on the streets of South Delhi was my first day at work! The journey of a salesman had begun.

That day defined my life. I ended up working there for the remaining three months, and that is where my love for Sales was born. There are many other memories of knocking on doors, my first sale etc., which I might share in future posts. Since then, there had to be a component of work along with my studies, and I ended up working part-time all through my graduation in Sales roles.

Most of the time “You Can’t do it” challenge has worked positively for me as a motivator and as a catalyst to help push boundaries, get out of my comfort zone, etc., on multiple occasions. It is not surprising that the same must have played a considerable role in the lives of many people we have come to respect, such as Muhammad Ali, Nelson Mandela, Richard Branson etc., and must be a key ingredient in their success.

So next time someone says to you,” You can’t do it,”.. just say and feel “, That’s Wonderful!” Enjoy all the hairpins and bends the road of life presents and push on.

Bon Voyage

Ankur Shiv Bhandari

Google vs ChatGPT | Shopper vs Cook | The Role of Intent

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ChatGPT, this very techie-sounding word, came to my attention only a few weeks ago. I did not make much of this initially until all of my social media feeds started getting flooded by thoughts/articles/videos, and every type of content possible on how wonderful this was. I believe it took only five days for ChatGPT to have a million users.

To feed my curiosity, I tried to sign up and see the wonder for myself. Well, it was running at capacity at the time, so it took another couple of days before I got access. So what came next was.. hmm..Interesting.

The use of the tool and the clarity of results left me pleasantly surprised. It is but natural that a Chat/language-based search tool is compared to the Czar of search, Google, and that is what I did. I tried comparing these two on some basic terms and then on slightly advanced terms. For example, I am interested in Engineering Psychology and our business; Color Parlour works in packaging design. So I thought, let me find out what it says about this topic. Lo and behold, ChatGPT came back with quite a decent definition of Engineering Psychology, including its alternate name around human factors; it was fantastic. In comparison, the exact search on Google helped me arrive at similar information but was packaged in different sources that Google introduced me to.

Thinking about this, a simple comparison came to my mind of a Shopper vs a Cook. I had a need, and what Google did was shopped around the net for me and presented me with some good options to consume the content that I felt met my requirements. I sampled a few of them and then took a consumption call. In comparison, ChatGPT tried to satisfy my need by cooking up a solution itself. It looked around for the right ingredients, mixed them up using its own recipe, and provided me with a complete dish of content to consume. It was not as if I wanted Pizza, and it gave me Pasta; it was a Pizza alright.

A vital role that search engines play is understanding Intent. Google and other established search engines assist individuals and businesses in understanding and acting on Intent. As a recap, in the online world, there are broadly four types of Intent:

  1. Information: Search focused on finding information
  2. Navigation: Search concentrated on getting to a destination, e.g: getting to Linkedin
  3. Transaction: Search for Goods and Services to buy.
  4. Commercial Investigation: Pre-search to transactions to investigate purchase options.

Although ChatGPT has had a strong start in the area of Intent focused on information consumption, it will be very interesting to see how the other areas and beyond are supported in times to come.

Whether we need a Shopper or a Cook will, of course depend on individual needs. However, will look forward to continuing interesting developments in the space.

Ankur Shiv Bhandari

 

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Aek Life- One Chance to Live: A perspective by Ankur Shiv Bhandari

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I think I heard while watching a TV series once, that the day we are born, the day we come into this world, the countdown starts of us leaving this world one day. This is the ultimate truth for everyone, it is just that the duration of our time here is different for every individual whether it is days, weeks, months, years, decades or maybe a century for some. Unless someone has a secret stash of Elixir hidden somewhere or until the fountain of youth is truly discovered, this is the reality of life. I would not call it a hard, rough or crude reality as is heard sometimes as whether it is hard and rough or smooth and enjoyable is to a great measure dependent on each one of us.

The undeniable fact is that this particular innings that we have is “One” or “Aek” composed of moments that might be of joy, sorrow, exhilaration, depression, wonder, surprise, enlightenment or just pure fun. An effort to live each of those moments fully is “Aek Life- One Chance to Live.”

I would like to think that I try to live my life with this principle of “Aek Life”. Yes, I cannot control everything and yes, I have many moments of despair, frustration and sometimes complete annoyance but as life has taken me on its rollercoaster , I have come to realise that it is not what happens to you that defines you or how you capture that as a moment of your life, rather it is how you respond to it that can largely result in the type of feeling you retain or the memory you capture. In my recent readings, I came across this Stoic’s prayer which I think helps me greatly and I try my best to incorporate it into my daily life. It goes like this: “ Dear God- Give me the Serenity to understand the things I cannot change, Give me the Courage to change the things I can and Give me the Wisdom to know the difference”

Through this medium of “Aek Life”, I will try to share my own experiences and thoughts on trying to live this “One” life as fully as we can, in spite of and with everything that this journey brings. Where possible and relevant, I will try to get others to join me in the conversation. I would welcome thoughts from all of you on your experiences and perspectives as well.

Life is not always what we want it to be, or let me rephrase, Life is not always how we think we want it to be. There are many mysteries which life reveals only at the right time and it might be that if you don’t get what you desire might be the best thing that happens to you. We will try to form perspectives on some of these mysteries as we go on this journey and try to augment every moment we have in this “ Aek life- One chance to Live”

Thank you

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Customers don’t know what they want, You do!- Believe and help them

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How many times have you doubted the strength of your product or service? How many times have you asked yourself the question “Do they really want what I am selling?” Am I wasting my time?”. However, if you genuinely believe that the Product or Service you are selling is going to make a positive difference for the customer, then the power is really in your hands. “Customers don’t know what they want, You do!” is a bold statement to make, I know. However, think about this. You have spent 5 years perfecting or learning about a Product, Service, Model or a simple proposition. Chances are you have looked at it from multiple angles and viewed it within many scenarios and in many cases know the value it can bring to your customer from different areas more than they know.

The onus is on you to articulate that in a simple way for your customers to help them understand the benefit of what you are proposing and help them believe why they really need it. But before that you yourself need to believe, what you have can make that difference. Steve Jobs believed Apple can change the world and it did, Colonel Sanders of the KFC fame believed that he had a winning recipe and it did win and I can quote many others but I guess you get the gist. For any of these,success did not come overnight but they persevered and it did come. Many of you might have seen the Steve Jobs movie where he said “People don’t know what they want until you bring it to them” is so true.

A similar scenario plays out from my chosen clip today from the movie ”The Hundred Foot Journey”. Have a look and would be good to know what you think?

 

Regards,

Ankur Shiv Bhandari

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Bhandari’s BRIA Model of Intent – TEDx Talk

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What causes a sports team to overhaul its dismal performance to an outstanding one within days?
What drives differences in performance between individuals?
What leads to discriminatory behaviours such as Racism?
What could be a key factor that leads to crimes?
What creates a sea change in political outcomes for political parties?
What causes shoppers and consumers to prefer and/or purchase a particular product or service over others?
What has the power to bring about a monumental change in the results for an organisation?

The word is “Intent”

It is the generation and power of intent that leads to or prevents actions. An understanding of how intent is created and what causes it to have the right strength, that can lead to action can both enable and prevent certain behaviours.

A result of my continuing study on “ The Role of Intent” has resulted in the BRIA Model. The BRIA Model tries to bring the process of creation of Intent and its correlation with action to life.

My TEDx talk on the subject provides more detail and I will continue to further build on the principle. I will try to share thoughts through this website and also via “The Intentonomics® Podcast” which can be accessed from my website and will also be available on major podcasting platforms.

ASB-TEDx-Talk

I wanted to, But … | The Role of Intent | Ankur Shiv Bhandari TEDx Talk

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In this TEDx talk, Ankur shares his thoughts on a key ingredient for success and happiness, Intent. Ankur talks about how to generate Intent and harness it so that it leads to Action bringing desired results. Ankur brings this to life using a simple model and real-life applications in the world of business, family, law, personal relations, public sector and many others. Break barriers to achievement and contentment through learnings from this talk by generating Intent and converting it into Action.

 

 

Conversation with a tomato blog

Conversation with a Tomato – The Positive Charge Talks by Ankur Shiv Bhandari – Podcast Episode 08

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What are the conversations you have had in the last 24 hours? Maybe with your partner? with your kids? parents? friends? Anyone else? And should I also ask with anything else?

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